Hello everyone! I’m so sorry that I’ve been MIA on my blog — lots of exciting changes going on in my life at the moment! Let’s see — I turned 24 in the end of March, packed up and moved to New York City, frantically searched for an apartment (found my dream place, spiral staircase and all, under budget) and started looking for a new television job! More on all of that excitement later.
With job searching, apartment hunting, and trying to meet new people — there comes something that I’ve experienced plenty of in my lifetime: rejection. It happens every day — we decide not to buy something, ideas we don’t like, food we don’t want to eat. Humans reject each other all the time. That happened to me recently, and I’m guilty of the poor-me attitude, feeling like I’m not good enough. But there’s a way to handle rejection with grace and gratitude.
Here’s the scenario. You end up in a relationship you never expected to be in. There are all these fish in the sea, and you think you’ve found your Nemo! You find yourself happy, laughing. You want to talk all day every day — and you’re so proud to call that person yours. Pretty awesome feeling, isn’t it?
Then WHAM BAM SHABAM — rejection. Yikes. A direct blow to your self-esteem, your worth. We automatically blame ourselves. There has to be something wrong with me, right? I must criticize the behavior that led to my rejection. There must be something wrong with me for someone to dismiss me, to give up on me. Guess what…WRONG.
Here’s what I’ve learned through experience. You can’t take it personally. It’s hard to think this way — but it really isn’t you. Initially you feel as though the person who rejected you didn’t see your inner and outer beauty.
When rejection happens — it’s okay to be emotional. Never apologize for being sensitive. This is a sign that you’ve got a big heart and you aren’t afraid to let others see it. Showing your emotion is a sign of strength. After you’ve cried it out, maybe had an epic dance party with your girlfriends, wipe those tears away and realize that when the answer is no, there’s a better yes down the road. You are too full of life to be half-loved or half-appreciated.
Most importantly — love yourself and continue to get after it. When 100 doors are slammed in your face, go to door 101 with enthusiasm. If it doesn’t open, it just isn’t your door. Work hard. The people who belong in your life will find you and stay. They won’t quit on you. Don’t be disappointed if people refuse you. As Einstein said, “I am thankful to all those who said NO. Because of them, I did it myself.”
There’s nothing to fear about rejection. It’s God’s protection and a nudge in a better direction.
XO – Olivia