When people ask me what my personality is like, I say that I’m an introvert – and sometimes I answer that question with reservation because many introverts are misunderstood.
Introversion is not just about shyness. It’s more to do with a person who is energized by being alone and finds large social situations to be draining. Introverts are thinkers and observers more than talkers. After being around people for a long time, we need to reenergize. We tend to prefer intellectual, deep conversations to small talk. We often feel alone in a crowd and we love to write. We prefer solitude, one-on-one conversations, and self-reflection.
But there’s also many fictions surrounding introversion – which circles around to feeling misunderstood more often than not. So here are five myths about us:
- Introverts don’t talk much. Not true! Introverts love to talk, but they only talk when there is something relevant they can add to a conversation. Small talk gets arduous. Trust me, if an introvert is really interested in a topic, they could talk for hours!
- Introverts don’t like people. False! Introverts just value smaller, close groups of friends. Personally, I can count my friends on one hand, but they know me inside and out – it just took a bit longer to peel back the layers. Introverts are fiercely loyal – so if you’re friends with an introvert, you’ll have an ally in all aspects. It just takes time for introverts to open up.
- Introverts are weird. They aren’t weird; they just don’t follow the crowd. They spend so much time thinking and craving authentic relationships that they often challenge what’s normal. It’s not about what everyone else is doing or what is popular, but what makes you an individual.
- It’s easy to tell if someone is an introvert. Nope! Many people say to me, “You make a living being on camera, being a public speaker, how could you be an introvert?” Many introverts could go to a huge party and make lots of friends – but after, they’ll just want to be in their pajamas reading a book in bed at the end of the night. Introverts can crave interactions and attention, but it always goes back to the need for solitude and recovery.
- Introverts cannot have fun. I have tons of fun; it might just look different than what some people consider fun. Great times for me involve relaxing at home or outside with nature. It’s more about familiar surroundings than noisy places with lots of people.
Are you an introvert? Do you ever struggle with feeling misunderstood? I’d love to hear from you. And remember, it’s okay to be yourself, whoever or whatever you are. You’re in good company.
XO – Olivia